Why Do Thirteen Year Old Girls Disappear?

I made Agatha Stone, the protagonist of The Lost Knight Series, thirteen years old to embody just how unprepared she was to save the world. But I discovered something interesting: she doesn’t have a lot of other girls her age to stand next to on the shelf.

When I finished the series, my daughter was thirteen. She might have been able to save the world, but no one asked her so we will never know. No one ever asks a thirteen year old girl to do anything. We often say how hard “that age” is, but there’s really nothing in our society that addresses it. Instead, it’s shut down, minimalized, and our girls basically disappear until they’re fifteen and the messiness is over.

Thirteen year olds are not cute and silly, like they were just the year before. Instead, they’re uncomfortably sexual, highly opinionated and moody. When my daughter started middle school one of the teachers warned me that, “There’s nothing meaner than a middle school girl.”

I don’t think they’re mean. I think they’re in pain. Hormones riddle girls with doubts, which makes them afraid, which makes them act out or disappear.

Our society has based puberty off the experiences of boys. There are many coming of age movies-books-stories about how difficult and fun “that time” is for boys. I’ll wait while you try to think of a few for girls. If you said Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret, congratulations you’ve made it to middle age. That book is forty-five years old. If you said Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen, you’re not as old, but that was seventeen years ago.

There are a few disturbing examples of girls discovering their sexuality, but a comedy, drama or sitcom about the real issues of being thirteen is highly underrepresented. And the thirteen year old actresses are out of work unless they look ten. They won’t work again until they’re fifteen unless they model, but that’s a different discussion.

Generally speaking, there are no television shows where a thirteen year old girl is the star. If she was cast in a television show when she was younger, her now thirteen year old character is a shell, with minimal lines and almost no story. As a female writer, I don’t want to complain or moan about the unfairness of it all, or blame the evil thing (insert whatever evil thing you wish) or rail at men for writing about what they know. Instead, I wrote about a girl. I tried to make her as true to a thirteen year old girl as I could.

I was thirteen once. I had a daughter and a stepdaughter who both struggled through “that time.” It’s nothing to be afraid of. I encourage other creative types to explore these interesting and uncharted stories and let our girls be heard.

What They Are Saying About The Lost Knight

It’s been almost a month since the release of my new book, The Lost Knight, the story about a shy and insecure 13-year-old teenager who’s asked to do the impossible! It has been a whirlwind getting the book launched. Newsflash kids, book publishing is hard work, but oh so rewarding!  Speaking of rewards, I am super thrilled with the reviews and responses I’ve been receiving from fans and readers.

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If you haven’t gotten the chance to purchase the book yet, you can do so here and here.

I also have a cool book trailer you can watch too! Check it out here!  

Thanks to all of the readers who picked up the book and have posted their reviews. I’m happy to share a few of them here:

Carol P. – This is a great, clean read. I highly recommend it. I can’t wait to read the next book in the series.”

Janice N. – “The book held my interest from the first chapter. The storyline was very easy to follow, and I would highly recommend it as a great book to read.”

Terry“I read this book to make sure it was age appropriate for my daughter. She is an advanced reader, and it’s really hard to find a book that will entertain and keep her immersed and still meet my strict criteria of NO bad words, partying and/or drinking, smoking, or sexual references. This book delivers a great storyline which hooks immediately and keeps the tween/adult reader enthralled and gives a peace of mind to my fellow helicopter moms. Not only did she love it, she can hardly wait for the next one.”

Amazon Reader“Loved this book start to finish. I love reading a series of books and looking forward to the next one. I’ve had “readers’ block” for several years and have been looking for a book to get me jump started again. This certainly did it and I’m looking forward to the next one. Highly recommend this book.”

If you would like to see more reviews, subscribe to my YouTube channel. I will be featuring video testimonials from my Wanderers, my group of book fans.

To those who are still reading, please share your reviews on Amazon. I would truly appreciate it! You can also share your thoughts below. Happy Reading!